There are 7.4 billion of us on this planet.
Think about that for a moment.
The largest arena in the western world is the Big House in Michigan, and it can hold around 108 000. It should be called the Mad House, because it’s absolute bedlam when it’s packed to capacity.
It’s hard to conceptualise just how many people 108 000 is. Yet over 155 000 newborns came into the world today.
It would take just over 30 million of us to link hands and circle the entire earth once.
And that would only be 0.4% of our population.
So what is it, out of a trillion possible combinations, that brings us together with a single other human; our better half; our twin flame?
Some of us may have had many partners throughout our time, and some of us may never find “the one”, but for the many of us, we come across that woman or man who takes our breath away and never gives it back.
We form a bond that time and space cannot erase.
When I think of that bond formed between two lovers in a sea of others, I think of an ocean. Sea what I did there? I’m shore you did.
Take an individual water molecule, composed of oxygen and hydrogen. On one end of the spectrum, there is basically an infinite amount of both hydrogen and oxygen in the universe. Because of this essentially limitless nature, the bonding of one oxygen to two hydrogen is actually the bonding of all hydrogen with all oxygen.
In the same way we do not perceive an ocean for each of its tiny water molecules, it’s as redundant to differentiate any single bond between a hydrogen atom and an oxygen atom from another bond of the same make-up.
In reality, however, and no matter how seemingly arbitrary the match, a singular hydrogen atom finds itself bound to a singular oxygen atom for an astronomically long period of time, in a bond representing the limitless connectivity of the collective, but also a connection of an infinitely intimate nature.
The molecules do not choose their bond, the bond chooses the molecules through a series of intricately functioning cogs of chance, coincidence, and fate.
I see the same in a relationship between two human lovers.
When a man falls in love with a woman he is, in fact, every man to have ever existed loving every female to have ever walked this earth.
And yet – like his oxygen and hydrogen brethren (for what are we if not primarily a collection of molecules?) – he is still a singular man bound to a singular woman in a seemingly arbitrary connection of a love that is truly boundless.
We are part of a love that is everywhere, in everything, and yet part of one that is infinitely unique to the singular bond that has – like the bonds which hold water together – chosen us.
I forget where I heard the quote that hate destroys and love creates. I’m not even sure how it applies here. But I fucking love it.
We are representative of a love infinitely expansive but equally as inclusive. Each of us as an individual is actually all men and women coming together, and by extension we are each a collective love which is simply in a perpetual loving relationship with itself.
And yet, here we are, a singular man out of trillions bound forever to a singular woman out of trillions in a apparently random yet infinitely complex and interconnected web of life and love.
This is the power of creation; the universal love that holds all things together.
And it’s the force that keeps you and I in an endless return to one another, for all of eternity.
Be good to each other,